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Top Five Tools for Mental Health

Some days anxiety is the furthest from my mind. Other days it seems front and center. Lately, my mind is becoming more of my friend. I have taken these last nine months or so to find what works for me. I think it’s important for us to realize we aren’t slaves to the battle in our mind. We can learn to win the battle… but we’re not gonna win it if we just sit back and take it.

I personally need to get in front of my anxiety. I’ve listened to my body to know how it responds to certain foods, supplements, and essential oils. I also had to become more aware of my energy and emotional well being. I had to learn to say no to things that were not serving me, and make time for activities that fueled my soul. Here are some of the things I put into place to reduce anxious feelings.

1. Counseling: Y’all, if your anxiety is taking over your life then GO GET HELP. There’s nothing wrong with admitting you need help. I cannot stress the importance of having an objective view into my thoughts and life. My counselor, Lorena, has a way of peeling back the layers during our counseling sessions to really get to the root of the problem. 

I also want to stress the importance of finding a good counselor. You’ve got to be willing to put in the effort to find someone you will work well with during this time. So, do some homework: ask around, check out reviews, and read up on some of their background. Also, even if someone looks amazing on paper, doesn’t mean they’ll be a good fit for you. I’m sure you didn’t marry the first guy you dated, right? Well, it may also take a few rounds of counselors to find the match for you. It took me three other counselors to find one who I felt was right for me.

2. Supplements: Some people love supplements, and some people hate them. I say, you can’t personally hate something you’ve never tried before. I had tried my share of supplements in the past. I was already taking a natural, whole food vitamin, and while it may have been helping me physically, it surely wasn’t helping my mental wellbeing. So I stopped taking my former vitamin, and decided to try out doTERRA’s Lifelong Vitality Pack after hearing others find results in their mental health from it. Y’all, it’s a game changer.

When I started taking doTERRA’s Lifelong Vitality Pack a few years ago, I felt a significant difference in my mental state: I slept better, my mind was taking less trips down that super dark road, I had more energy, and even my husband noticed a difference. Now, it’s a must have, non-negotiable for me. I encourage you to do some research, and try out some high quality (don’t just go to your local drug store and expect quality) supplements.

3. Community: This is huge for me. So many times someone is struggling with a mental illness, it become easy to believe the lie that we are all alone. This is not true! Many of us have family and friends that we can go to to share and seek support. I personally have a handful of girlfriends I can go to, and I know they are by my side and praying for me.

Do you feel alone? I understand that sometimes in new seasons we’re in a place of making new friends. Go do it! Join a church/Bible study, find a fitness group, or check out some networking events. Facebook makes this incredibly easy. I know the process of getting to know people can be difficult for us introverts, but it’s worth it.

4. Essential Oils: These are life to me. I know, some of you may think just I’m promoting essential oils because I sell them, but I sell them because of how much they’ve helped me and my family. If you don’t wanna buy them from me, cool! But don’t buy them from your local super market. I’ve gone over the quality differences before, so I won’t spend time here. Find a doTERRA leader that you trust to purchase from, and have them walk you through your best options.

I’ll be writing a separate post on specific essential oils you can use to reduce anxious feelings, uplift your mood, and help you stay cool. In the meantime here are a few general guidelines. Citrus oils are super uplifting. These are great to diffuse throughout the day. Woodsy oils like Balance, Frankincense, or Sandalwood all will have a grounding effect. These are awesome to put on topically when you’re feeling frazzled. There are also some awesome blends doTERRA already has made for mood support.

5. Faith: My relationship with the Lord has grown so much in this season. I’ve realized that for months I was trying to earn my own righteousness. I was trying to check off boxes, stick to the list, and striving for perfection. Friends, this is an exhausting road to take. If this sounds like you: just realize our righteousness comes from the Lord, He loves us unconditionally, and He is the only Perfect One. His road is easy and His burden is light. Simply receive His love, we don’t need to earn it.

I’d love to hear from you. What’s something you do to take care of your own mental health?

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May 2019 Promos

To all my mamas out there: Happy Mother’s Day! I hope y’all have been enjoying your month so far, and I’m going to help you enjoy it even more. Today I’m going to share with you the doTERRA specials for the month. Check it out!

Product of the Month (POM): Did you know that doTERRA offers a FREE Product of the Month, every single month? All you have to do is place a qualifying Loyalty Rewards order, and this product will automatically be added to your cart. No promo code needed.

This month only you can get a bottle of doTERRA’s Cypress essential oil for free with your LRP order. Cypress oil is one of my favorite smells. It reminds me of being in the middle of all the tall trees when I would visit my grandparents in Arkansas. Cypress essential oil is only meant for aromatic or topical use. It’s great to diffuse to clear up congestion and sinuses. It can also help you wake up in the morning!

I also used this essential oil every day during pregnancy. I was having some issues with my circulation in my legs, and I would rub Cypress on the back of my legs, and my circulation improved greatly! Also, if any of you mamas out there have little ones that struggle with bed wetting, rub some Cypress over their bladder before bed to help them wake up dry.

Highlighted Product: doTERRA also offers a product at 10% off every month. This month is doTERRA’s Anti-Aging Eye Cream. This eye cream is made with doTERRA’s essential oils, like Frankincense Ylang Ylang, and Blue Tansy that are clinically proven to reduce the appearance of fine lines and wrinkles over time. 

It can also help all the sleep deprived mamas with the dark circles under their eyes. I love that it has a steel rollerball applicator because it always helps me to feel refreshed and awakens my eyes in the morning.

Bonus from ME!

Just to sweeten the deal, here is what I have to offer when you choose to start your doTERRA journey with me:

  • Welcome gift (personalized roller bottles, recipes, and other oily goodies)
  • Private access to my team’s Facebook group (a wealth of oil knowledge)
  • Free Wellness Consultation (a chance to really dive deep into your health goals)
  • Continued Support (to answer your questions in real time from a real person— ME!)

Simply go to mydoterra.com/amandagerber and click “Join & Save” to get started.

Which one of these promos are you taking advantage of this month? Share below in the comments!

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Mental Illness Myths: Shedding Light to Spread Support

I’ve heard so many myths about mental illness over the years. I’ve experienced well meaning people say some things on the topic that simply aren’t true. Mental illness is a tricky thing… it’s hard to understand unless you’ve experienced it firsthand. My heart behind this post isn’t to bash anyone who has ever fallen trap to these myths. My intent is to shed light on the issue so we can all learn how to love and support our loved ones struggling with mental illness.

Myth #1: Anyone with a mental illness needs medication. This simply isn’t true. I think medication has a time and place, but it’s not for everyone. I know many people successfully working through their anxiety, depression, ect. without taking a pill to do it. I have personally been on medication in the past, and it helped for a season. However, I don’t have the need to take it now, and I’m taking other measures towards healing. I’ll be sharing my top tools in another post soon.

Myth #2: Anyone who talks about their own mental illness is seeking attention. You know how some games have a buzzer that the opposite team pushes to know they’ve gotten a question wrong? It’s loud and obnoxious and makes a bbbbeeeeaaaaa sound? Yeah, I would push the buzzer on this one. Sure, a handful of people have done this. But, as someone who works in the field of psychology, please listen to me when I say: It’s still a cry for help. So, don’t just roll your eyes at it. Encourage that person to seek the help they need.

Most of us that talk about our mental illness are just trying to break the stigma. We’re also trying to let others with a mental illness know they’re not alone. It takes some serious courage to share about this delicate issue,  and we could all learn from each other’s experience.

Myth #3: Mental illness is a choice. Now, stick with me on this one, because I need to unpack it a bit. Did I choose to have depression and suicidal thoughts  at 12 years old? No, I did not. However, I did choose to go 15 years without ever getting help. I was a kid, and I was scared and ashamed of my struggle. I carried that fear and shame into adulthood. I now realize I let those lies rob of of potential freedom. 

I didn’t choose depression and anxiety, BUT I do believe I can choose to let it consume me, or get in front of it. Treatment will look different for everyone, and I know there are things I can do to keep my mind in a healthy state. Again, I did not choose depression and anxiety. I do choose to fight it. I can fight it, get in front of it, and move closer and closer to healing. You can too. 

Myth #4: You can snap out of it. Y’all, I am so over this one. People that I love dearly have said things along these lines, and it hurts. You can’t simply snap out it. If you’ve struggled with a mental illness for a good amount of time, you’re going to need time to heal. You’re going to need time to go to counseling, find those lies and replace them with truth. You’re going to need time to learn your mental triggers. You’re going to need time to learn how certain foods and chemicals affect your mental and physical state. Healing is possible, but you don’t snap your way there. You walk your way there, one step at a time. 

Myth #5: Once you have a mental illness, you’re stuck with it. I see this myth more with people that are managing their own mental illness. I personally believe someone can be completely healed from their mental illness. I truly do. I believe it will take work, counseling (good counseling, y’all), a will to fight, and a lot of prayer… but healing is possible. The process with look different for everyone, but the end result can be the same. 

Ok, folks, those are my top 5 myths I come across in the area of mental illness. I’m sure you’ve heard your share of lies too along the way. What is a myth you’ve heard before about mental illness?

Mental Health Awareness Month: My Current Journey

Our mental health can change and shift, as it has for me over the years. It’s a process of conquering one battle, and a then days/weeks/months/years later stepping up to another one. The road from a toxic mind to a healthy mind isn’t a quick and clean journey. It’s a process… and it’s messy. But it’s a battle worth fighting.

I’ve dealt with depression on and off for decades. Some of you were with me as I shared my battle a few years ago. I went through lots of healing and breakthrough, and had a few really great years where I didn’t struggle with my mental health.

Yet, with a background of depression, there are some dark and deep lies that seemed to settle in my soul. Lately these lies seem to carry over every area in my life, and had become crippling. Simple, everyday tasks and responsibilities had become difficult and incredibly tiring. 

While I praise the Lord that I’m no longer suicidal, I had dealt with some pretty crippling anxiety over the past year. I was constantly going through the motions of life while feeling like I was one hiccup away from an anxiety attack. I had dealt with anxiety in the past (depression and anxiety go hand in hand often), but never to this level. It had reached a new height where I recognized I needed outside help. And that was okay. 

My chest constantly felt tight, shoulders tense, and at times I had to put some serious effort into slowing my breath so I wouldn’t hyperventilate in the middle of making tacos for dinner. I had to put immense effort into slowing my mind and racing thoughts. Sometimes I’d lock myself in my bathroom for a few minutes just to count and breathe. I’d lean up against the door, close my eyes, and start counting while slowly while inhaling and exhaling. 1… 2…. 3… 4….

I called my counseling office, and was put on a waiting list. I forgot I was on the waiting list until I got a call a few months later. I almost decided not to take the appointment, because I had been having a good couple of weeks. I am so glad I took the appointment.

My counselor has a way of unlocking deep rooted lies that I’ve carried in my soul that have been bleeding into every area of my life: wife, mother, daughter, doTERRA leader, friend, church leader. We’re digging up roots of some serious negative beliefs, and replacing them with the beautiful truth. I’m slowly working on starving the toxic thoughts and nurturing the healthy ones.

During the month of May, in honor of Mental Health Awareness Month, I’d love to share more on my mental health journey. I’ll be giving specifics on how I manage depression and anxiety with things like counseling, running, taking my supplements and other homeopathic measures, and opening up to some trusted friends and family about my current struggles. We’re not meant to fight this battle alone. Thank you for joining me on my recovery to freedom. You’re not alone either.

Got questions? Or maybe you’d like to see me cover a specific topic pertaining to mental health? Comment below, I’d love to connect with you!

September doTERRA Promos

It’s fall, y’all! Somehow summer is gone, and fall is upon us. doTERRA has some amazing specials going on this month that can help support your family’s health. Check them out!

Product of the Month (POM): Did you know that doTERRA offers a FREE Product of the Month, every single month? All you have to do is place a qualifying Loyalty Rewards order, and this product will automatically be added to your cart. No promo code needed.

This month only you can get a bottle of doTERRA’s Lime essential oil for free with your LRP. This is an essential oil I keep in my kitchen right by my sink. I love using 1 drop of Lime essential oil in my sparkling water every day. We also use it a lot to cook with, especially when I make cilantro lime rice and guacamole. I also use it to clean my kitchen counters, sink, and table. Just add a couple of drops to a spray bottle with water, and get ready to clean while uplifting the mood in your home.

Lime has a million uses outside the kitchen as well! It’s great to add to your diffuser with doTERRA’s Breathe (Respiratory Blend) to help support a healthy respiratory system. You can also diffuse this oil in the morning with Peppermint to help wake up your home and keep you alert during your morning routine.

Highlighted Product: doTERRA also offers a product at 10% off every month. This month is Cardamom essential oil. I had actually NEVER purchased this essential oil before. Yes, there are still some essential oils I haven’t tried yet! We literally have a doTERRA budget, just like we have a grocery budget to keep. So, sometimes I stick to our basics: Lifelong Vitality Pack, kid’s vitamins, TriEase, etc… BUT I like to try new oils when they go on sale!

Cardamom is AMAZING for respiratory support. My entire order of oils was based on respiratory support, because my kiddos needed some extra support these past couple of weeks. Here is my powerhouse respiratory diffuser blend: 4 drops Breathe, 2 drops Frankincense, 2 drops Lemon, and 2 drops Cardamom. (If your room is a small bedroom, cut this recipe in half. My boys all share a room, and it’s a big room so we use 10 drops in their room). It did wonders for the kiddos!

Cardamom is also great for digestive health. You can use this essential oil topically, internally, and aromatically as well. Give it a try!

Discounted Enrollment Kits: This doesn’t happen every month, so you want to make sure to jump on this sort of deal while you can! During the month of September, doTERRA is offering select enrollment kits at 20% the already discounted price. Here’s a list of the discounted kits!

Bonus from ME!

Just to sweeten the deal, here is what I have to offer when you choose to start your doTERRA journey with me:

  • Welcome gift (personalized roller bottles, recipes, and other oily goodies)
  • Private access to my team’s Facebook group (a wealth of oil knowledge)
  • Free Wellness Consultation (a chance to really dive deep into your health goals)
  • Continued Support (to answer your questions in real time from a real person— ME!)

Simply go to mydoterra.com/amandagerber and click “Join & Save” to get started.

Which one of these promos are you taking advantage of this month? Share below in the comments!

These statements have not been evaluated by the Food and Drug Administration. This product is not intended to diagnose, treat, cure, or prevent any disease.

doTERRA BOGO: OnGuard Bundle

Hey friends! So it’s the last day of doTERRA BOGOs, and I’m gonna take a quick minute to tell you all about today’s BOGO. It’s a great one!

Today only if you purchase doTERRA OnGuard (Protective Blend) essential oil, you will get doTERRA’s OnGuard foaming hand soap and two soap pumps absolutely free! OnGuard was the first doTERRA essential oil I used. I had throat discomfort, and my friend let me use some of her OnGuard oil topically on my throat. I fell in love with the results, and got a starter kit!

Now before I get into the uses of OnGuard, I want to let you know that you can use this oil aromatically in your diffuser, topically on the area of concern, and internally. It makes a great hot tea! Be sure to dilute this oil if you’re using it on someone with sensitive skin. Also, I think it’s pretty self explanatory on how to use the hand soap, so I’ll skip over that product.

You can use doTERRA OnGuard (Protective Blend) for:

  • Immune support
  • Clean your kitchen, bathroom, and floors naturally
  • Throat discomfort
  • Diffuse to cleanse the air in your home
  • Uplift your mood

So, how can you take advantage of these BOGOs going on this week? Go to my website mydoterra.com/amandagerber and just add the items to your cart. You can order 4 BOGOs per account per day. For the BEST price click “Join & Save” to get wholesale pricing for a year. No selling or monthly orders required for this. 

PLUS with the purchase of any enrollment kit, you can get a FREE Wild Orange this month only. If your enrollment order is 200PV or more, you can get a FREE Wild Orange and FREE Copaiba! Come on, now. It doesn’t get much better than that! Well… it actually does because then you get my personal welcome gift, a free wellness consultation with yours truly, and I’ll support you every step of the way in your journey towards a healthy and happy life.

How are you looking forward to using these free oils in your home?

doTERRA BOGO: Frankincense & Jasmine

If we have personally chatted about dōTERRA essential oils before, then you know I have a saying… “When in doubt get your Frankincense out,” because it’s good for SO many things! Well, now is your chance to stock up because dōTERRA’s BOGO is featuring two of their most precious oils.

Today only if you purchase dōTERRA Frankincense Touch roller, you’ll get a Jasmine Touch roller absolutely FREE… and y’all, Jasmine is such a precious oil. Here are a few popular uses of these oils.

FRANKINCENSE:
🌿 Mood support
🌿 Immune Booster
🌿 Promotes healthy cellular response
🌿 Supports your brain health

JASMINE:
🌿 Reduces anxious feelings
🌿 Promotes healthy, glowing skin
🌿 Helps to balance your hormones

Plus use both of these oils together to naturally reduce the appearance of fine lines and wrinkles.

Excuse me, while I go stock up on these most treasured oils! Do you need help ordering these oils? Simply go to mydoterra.com/amandagerber and just add the items to your cart. You can order 4 BOGOs per account per day. For the BEST price click “Join & Save” to get wholesale pricing for a year. No selling or monthly orders required for this.

PLUS with the purchase of any enrollment kit, you can get a FREE Wild Orange this month only. If your enrollment order is 200PV or more, you can get a FREE Wild Orange and FREE Copaiba! Come on, now. It doesn’t get much better than that! Well… it actually does because then you get my personal welcome gift, a free wellness consultation with yours truly, and I’ll support you every step of the way in your journey towards a healthy and happy life.

What’s your favorite way to use Frankincense?

doTERRA BOGO: Serenity & Lavender

It’s Christmas in July! Not only is it Amazon Prime Day, but doTERRA has kicked off a week of BOGOs today. I’m gonna keep this super short and sweet, but I wanted to let you know the BOGOs that are happening today.

If you purchase a bottle of doTERRA’s Serenity (Restful Blend), you’ll get a bottle of doTERRA Lavender essential oil for free. Y’all… it doesn’t get much better than this! These are two essential oils that I use every day. Check out some of the benefits.

doTERRA Serenity (Restful Blend) can be used aromatically or topically

  • A good night’s sleep
  • Supports a healthy mood
  • Calm the cranky kids
  • Beautiful aroma for a natural perfume
  • Helps you chill out

doTERRA Lavender can be used aromatically, topically or internally

  • All things soothing
  • Soothes itchy or irritated skin
  • Soothes frazzled emotions
  • Soothes sore and tired muscles
  • Soothes head tension

So, how can you take advantage of these BOGOs going on this week? Go to my website mydoterra.com/amandagerber and just add the items to your cart. You can order 4 BOGOs per account per day. For the BEST price click “Join & Save” to get wholesale pricing for a year. No selling or monthly orders required for this. 

PLUS with the purchase of any enrollment kit, you can get a FREE Wild Orange this month only. If your enrollment order is 200PV or more, you can get a FREE Wild Orange and FREE Copaiba! Come on, now. It doesn’t get much better than that! Well… it actually does because then you get my personal welcome gift, a free wellness consultation with yours truly, and I’ll support you every step of the way in your journey towards a healthy and happy life.

Who else is excited about this BOGO?! I’d love to know, what’s your favorite way to use Lavender essential oil?

Self Care Series: Sunshine

It’s time for another segment of our Self Care Series: yay! Ok, y’all… First, I have to show you just the awesomeness (yes, it’s a word… in my book! 😉 ) of the timing of this series: 

1. May is Mental Health Awareness Month: Hello?!? Self Care = Self Love.

2. I am currently listening to Tiffany Peterson’s Mindset Makeover Series, which focuses on mindset and self care… you guys.

Ok, now that I got THAT out of the way, let’s continue. Last time, I chatted with y’all about sleep, and today I am going to talk about something that may seem totally opposite of that, but it’s equally important: SUNSHINE. Yep, sunshine!

Now, I’m not going to tell you that you need to spend hours a day soaking up the rays, because, hello: skin cancer. BUT I do think it’s really good for your body to get sunshine every single day. So, I’m going to share my routine with you, and you can cater it to your liking and schedule.

My husband and I have been beginning our day together outside. It’s beautiful, y’all… not my backyard, my backyard is just typical, the beautiful aspect is starting the day together outside. We have no rigid routine set for ourselves, we just sit out there after getting our oldest to the bus stop and the younger three kiddos play outside and eat dirt and whatnot. We’ll drink our coffee, read whatever book we happen to be working on (I am currently reading Uninvited by Lysa Terkeurst), and just hang out for a bit before he has to leave for work.

What I also started doing was literally laying out in the sun. Not for the sake of tanning, because anyone who knows me knows I don’t tan (despite the fact that my mom is Hispanic, therefore making me half Hispanic… still no tan for me). However, I LOVE LOVE LOVE the feeling of the sun on my skin. I don’t know why, I can’t explain it, but I do. 

I remember laying out with my friend Amanda from college on random big rocks the campus had placed throughout the college. There we were laying out on these big rocks right outside of the UCC (I don’t even remember what UCC stands for anymore… I am so old!). The feeling of the sun on my skin is addicting.

I have been laying out for 15 minutes a day for the past couple of months. During nap time when the sun is shining the most, I’ll throw on a tank top and shorts I would never wear in public, and lay out on our outdoor couch. I set my timer so I won’t fall asleep out there, because the heat in South Texas is no joke y’all. This 15 minutes is bliss.

Here are some health benefits from getting sunshine:

– Can help to lower your cholesterol 

– Can help to lower your blood pressure

– Supports your immune system

– Elevate your mood

– Creates Vitamin D in your body

– Improves the appearance of your skin

**Note: We all know that prolonged exposure to the sun can lead to skin cancer, so keep these times brief. If you’re going to be in the sunshine for more than 15 minutes, then you’ll want to protect your skin. Preferably with a natural sun screen!**

I wanna hear from you! Do you enjoy being out in the sun?

Mental Health Awareness Month: Cling to Hope

I didn’t expect this blog post to be so difficult to write. I knew I wanted to write about Mental Health Awareness, but I didn’t know how to approach this article… and not because I feel like I don’t have a voice in this battle. I know I have a voice, a story, and a passion about mental health… but how on earth do I put words to the ache in my heart?

I fought depression on and off from 11 years old to 28 years old. I am only 31 years old. I struggled with anorexia in middle school, late in college, and then briefly after having my second child. Depression has been a part of my life more often than not. Depression is what stole my childhood. Depression is what stole my motherhood for the first 4 years of it. Depression stole my identity for so long. I believed the lies it fed me for far too long. The lies of You’re not good enough. You’re not worthy of (Fill in the blank/literally anything other than pain). You’re not loved.

Y’all I went so long believing these lies were true. It wasn’t until I was about 26 years old and in counseling while I was recounting my thoughts out loud to my counselor. Specific thoughts I had when I debated with the idea of suicide… My counselor was able to help me realize that those thoughts were some dark lies. Many have said suicide is a selfish decision, and I understand that perspective. I also understand the perspective of the one with suicidial ideations… you’ve convinced yourself this is the most selfless thing you can do for your family. You’ve convinced yourself that they are better off without you, that you’re easily replaceable, and that you truly don’t matter. You’ve convinced yourself that the lies are true. **Please note: If you are thinking about suicide, I urge you to stay. Stop listening to the lies in your head. Know that you are LOVED. You matter. You have purpose. Go get professional help.**

This month, and every month, I stand with those of you affected by mental illness: depression, anxiety, eating disorders, bipolar, schizophrenia, you name it. I stand with you, I will fight for you, and I will pray endlessly that you hear God’s truth, and not lies.

Even though I had studied for years about psychology and have a Master’s Degree in Clinical Psychology, it took my husband to convince me to get help. I was in such a dark place after we had our third child… I went to counseling, I took Zoloft for a while, I continued studying and found Dr. Caroline Leaf’s work from my counselor’s suggestion. (If toxic thoughts are running your life, I highly recommend her book Switch on your Brain). Before we got pregnant with Sarah, while working with my doctor, I weaned off of Zoloft. I started using some holistic measures in place of it (and still do), and after having my fourth baby I didn’t struggled with postpartum depression. I don’t know if you can appreciate the magnitude of that sentence… for the first time in YEARS I didn’t have to battle my mind while caring for my children. Sure, I still dealt with those raging hormones the first couple of months, but I felt the JOY of motherhood that I had only heard about from other moms. To this day I don’t have to take Zoloft, and I no longer have to fight the daily fight to chose life and not death. 

I want to provide hope. If you’ve been struggling with mental illness for months, years, or decades… there is hope. I know, please trust me I know, sometimes it feels helpless. I have many memories of crying out to God begging him to just take it away. I am incredibly thankful He provided me with a solution for my body and emotions.  I want to encourage you to continue to seek help and healing. Reach out to your loved ones. Know that you are loved, wanted, valued. Go to counseling. Provide your body with solid nutrition, exercise and supplements. Feed your mind with positive thoughts and emotions. Surround yourself with loving people and influences. Believe in healing. Cling to hope.